Struggling with Finances?

Zig Ziglar is quoted as saying, “money isn’t everything but it ranks up there with oxygen.”

Nearly everything we want, need, desire, and dream of requires money. Money makes the world go ‘round more than love does! When we struggle financially, it seems to affect every other area of our lives.

We can provide scriptural evidence that money is important to God, the kingdom of God, and His people in general. There are approximately 2000 scriptures about money and possessions in the Bible, indicating its importance. Many of these scriptures speak to God’s generous nature and desire to meet the needs of His people.

So why do so many good people, who love God, struggle with financial hardship, as if their money is swept away with the current of life. Many people who I personally know are barely getting by, and some are not even close to being able to pay their bills. As much as we want to point a finger, the struggle “ultimately” can’t be blamed on politics, the times we are living in, or any other number of things that contribute to our financial frustrations. Before you stop reading, I’ll address this statement a little later in more detail.

Perhaps you are struggling right now with a financial hardhship. I’d like to simply point out three things to ponder that I hope will help. Actually, I have three questions to ask. This will certainly not be an exhaustive study on the topic, but I believe it might help realign our vision, thoughts and actions that can prepare us for increase!

First of all; do we believe God wants us to prosper and have our needs and even desires met? If we are going to pray for financial blessing and trust God to meet our needs, we must believe that it is God’s will, otherwise we can’t ask in faith. Scripture assures us that, “My God shall supply all of your needs, according to His riches in Glory, by Christ Jesus.” We are also told to, “Remember the Lord thy God, for it’s He that gives us the power to attain wealth, so that his covenant can be established in the earth.” The Apostle John wrote, “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be healthy, even as your soul prospers!”

I encourage you to google scriptures that speak about God’s will regarding finances, to create your own beliefs and build your faith regarding this topic. This is important! I don’t just want you to take my word for it. We all “live out of” the beliefs of our heart. That’s why you and I are instructed to “guard your heart with all diligence, because out of it flow all the issues of life!” Unhealthy and unscriptural beliefs lead to unhealthy issues. Money issues come from what we hold to be true about money!

Next - Are we looking to God as our source, or a job as our source. This is an area where we seem to get our eyes off of the abundance of God and onto other things. We stop trusting in the Lord and start leaning to our understanding, or what we can see, and hear!. Trusting in our job can only offer limited security and comfort but not true peace, because it’s a temporary situation. It can change without notice. God never changes! He is always the same. Sure, we are expected to work a job, or be self employed. But our job should be viewed as an avenue, not our source. If God can provide a widow in the Bible with enough oil to sell, and then live for the rest of her life - and if God can provide a prophet with food, brought to him by ravens in his time if need, God can provide for us in untypical ways also! When we look to someone or something else as our source, our faith and the supply becomes limited. When we view God as our source, he meets our needs “according to His riches in glory” (Phil. 4:19), not according to one avenue. As our source, He creates other avenues to help us from. There have been times I’ve received an unexpected check in the mail. There have been times when a gift from someone was given with the reason from the giver that “they felt like they (or God) wanted to bless me!” I don’t know about you, but I want a financial source with unlimited avenues, not an avenue as my source that has its built in limits.

God’s economic plan is not attached to the U.S. treasury. He is not affected by inflation. I believe he cares about the decisions made by whoever is in the White House, but if we are looking to God as our source and not other men, or the economic indicators, we can live from the supernatural flow of His kingdom! Jesus prayed that “God’s will would be done on earth as it is in heaven.” Heaven is not suffering financial hardships! After all, the streets are made of gold!

Finally, How stingy or generous are we, especially when things get tight financially? The golden rule applies all the time, not just when we feel like we have the most to offer. Sowing seeds into the lives of others can look like a lot of different things. We are encouraged to be friendly when we need a friend. We are also encouraged to give financially to the need of others when we ourselves have needs. Proverbs tells us that, “One gives freely and grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want.” We are also instructed in Proverbs 11 that, “The world of the generous gets larger and larger; the world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller. The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are helped.”

The kingdom of God way of doing things does not always make sense, nor agree with the world’s philosophy. God sees our kindness and “doing unto others” as seeds that will bring us a harvest of the seeds we have sown. Giving to others, especially when we have a need that we don’t know how it will be met, opens another avenue for God to bless us with. Jesus’ own words in red are, “Give and it will be given back to, good measure, pressed down and shaken together, will be poured into your lap!”

God wants to bless us! He wants to be our source who can bless us through many avenues. He wants our trust placed in Him more than any other person or thing. He also wants to use our unselfish generosity towards others, to create an avenue in which he can bring his provision back around to us.

Be well!

The Power of Your Uniqueness!

 

According to Dictionary.com, the definition of uniqueness is, “the quality of being unlike anything else of its kind or of being solitary in type or characteristics”.

Everyone has uniqueness within them.  No two people are identical in every way, not even identical twins.  We are all created with a God given, unique, set of giftings, talents, strengths and abilities.  This sense of uniqueness comes from the creative heart of God.   When we recognize and embrace this uniqueness, we become empowered.

On the flip side of that coin, we are sometimes more prone to believe that the trials or negative circumstances in our lives are unique to only us.  Sometimes it feels like we are “the only ones with this issue”.  We are led to believe that the things we consider ugly or negative about ourselves are things no one else deals with.   This sense of uniqueness comes from a fallen, blame and shame filled world and will weaken and encumber us.  It will also cause us to feel alone and secluded, as well as inadequate for God’s use.

When we define our lives and uniqueness by our problems, or failures, it empowers a false, unhealthy sense of identity.  It’s only when we see ourselves through God’s eyes, and by His Word, that we find a healthy sense of uniqueness and identity.  You are unconditionally loved, completely accepted and approved by God through Christ.  We are each uniquely gifted.  God’s good and personalized thoughts for each of us are so numerous we can’t even count them as they outnumber the grains of sand.  (Psalms 139)

God’s grace, the exchange of our weaknesses for His strength, is always available to help us in any situation we find ourselves in.  There’s not anything He hasn’t seen or overcome. And He has never said, “Oops”, about you or your life!

Be encouraged that you are unique and one of a kind.  This uniqueness empowers you to live the life that God has planned for you; a life that reveals his love and glory to the world around us, in a way that no one else can.

Focussing on God's Character, Worth, and Promises...

Focusing on God’s character, worth, and promises builds better mental and spiritual health than dwelling on personal needs and limitations.

3 Daily Mindset Exercises

  1. Start the day with gratitude. Consider 3-4 of Gods attributes before checking your phone. “I will wake up the day with my song.” Ps. 108:2

  2. Write down, or send yourself a scripture about one of God’s promises regarding a challenging circumstance. Read it out loud to yourself throughout the day. “Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God.” Romans 10:17

  3. Practice metacognition, which in it’s basic meaning is to be aware of your thoughts throughout the day; then take your limiting or negative thoughts captive. You have the ability and power to do so. It’s OK to talk back to those invasive thoughts. “Take every thought captive and bring it to the obedience (agreement) with Christ (God’s word).” 2 Corinthians 10:5

There Is A Peace..

In spite of the craziness and chaos of the world,

Regardless of the rage around you,

When circumstances tell you to run and hide or give up,

There is a peace that passes understanding and it’s available to us,

it has the power to calm the heart and soul!

“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you. It’s different than the world’s peace, so don’t let your heart be troubled, don’t let it be afraid. Trust me,”

Jesus

It Was For Our Freedom...

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.” Galatians 5:1a

The freedom that we have in Christ is a reality for all believers; it isn’t a dream, a pie in the sky someday I’ll be free hope. It’s not a fable or fairy tale! As glorious as our eternal home in heaven will be, the freedom we find in Christ is to be experienced here on earth, in this lifetime.

Jesus’ redemptive work was more than enough to free us, His grace is always sufficient, and the power of His resurrection gives life and freedom to all who call upon His name.

Happy Independence Day!

God's Promise of Something New!

When we can't see hope in our current situation or circumstances, remember this; God is at work behind the scenes, working on your behalf. He sees our impossibilities and makes a way. He provides rest for our souls when we are weary.

"I am creating something new. Do you see it? I have put roads in deserts, and streams in thirsty lands."

(Isaiah 49:19 CEV)

No Matter Where You Find Yourself....

Maybe you’ve arrived at where you are by your own decisions or actions

Maybe someone led or forced you to the place that you are

It could be that you’re not even sure how you got there

You can be sure of this;

God allows U turns

He won’t desert you

He can take what was meant for evil against you

and work it out for your good and His glory!

HE IS OUR HOPE!

No Matter Where You Find Yourself....

Maybe you’ve arrived at where you are by your own decisions or actions

Maybe someone led or forced you to the place that you are

It could be that you’re not even sure how you got there

You can be sure of this;

God allows U turns

He won’t desert you

He can take what was meant for evil against you

and work it out for your good and His glory!

HE IS OUR HOPE!

Too Far Gone?

No one is hopeless!
YOU are not hopeless! You are not beyond his hearing, seeing, or helping!
God has not given up on you!
He is still relentlessly pursuing you!

“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning.” (The Bible)

Change Isn't Change Until There's Change!

A long time ago, in a land not too far away, I was at Bible College in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma. The school had a guest speaker whose name was Edwin Louis Cole. Mr Cole’s ministry was predominantly oriented towards men, but he was a powerful, insightful teacher to any gender who had ears to hear.

I can’t tell you the title of his message he gave to the students at Rhema Bible College, but I remember one statement like it was yesterday, even though it has actually been over forty years ago. In his message he stated, “Change isn’t change until there’s change.” For some reason, those few simple words have stuck with me all this time. I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t always like change, however, I do realize that without change, there can be no growth.

Here’s the point I want to make! Many times, we confuse hoping for change, praying for change, thinking about change, and talking about change as things that equate to change. The fact is, none of these things do. While it is good to hope for, pray for, think about, and talk about change, unless we put intentions into practice, we are only deceiving ourselves into thinking growth is happening.

Change is the one thing that measures itself. Change is noticeable. Growth is measured by change, not by the desire to grow.

So, what is that thing, or area of your life that you are hoping for growth in? What are you praying for that you know needs to change. I’m sure you’ve heard of the saying, “ If you want something you’ve never had, DO something you’ve never done!” Don’t just pray, think, hope and talk about fulfilling your dreams or purpose.

Step out of your usual, typical way of doing life and change something. Take a class, seek help, find a counselor. If you want change, do something that change can measure. Because CHANGE ISN’T CHANGE UNTIL THERE’S CHANGE!

You Probably Know Someone Who Is Missing Someone!

As you enjoy this Holiday season with your family, please remember that nearly ⅓ of American families are affected by family estrangement. The Holidays can be extremely difficult for those who are missing a child, grandchildren, parent or sibling. Estrangement can make one feel lonely even in a crowd, but please be intentional and take a moment to make a phone call, given encouragement to, visit, or include someone in an activity who is affected by estrangement. A little effort can go a long way, especially this time of year.

Ten reasons why people choose to work with me at Ascend Christian Counseling:

  1. My Goal Is Healing—Not Lifelong Counseling
    My mission is to help you find true healing and freedom, not to keep you in counseling forever. (Though I’m always a fan of an occasional check-up!)

  2. I Use Time-Tested, Biblically Sound Resources
    I rely on trusted, faith-based principles and proven tools that have stood the test of time to help you live a healthy, balanced life.

  3. A Relaxed, Non-Clinical Atmosphere
    I offer a comfortable and down-to-earth setting where you can feel safe and at ease. (But no, pajamas aren’t part of the dress code!)

  4. I’m Lighthearted—but Serious About Your Healing
    I love to laugh and keep things real, but when it comes to your growth and recovery, I take that very seriously.

  5. I Believe in Whole-Person Wellness
    God cares about your spirit, soul, and body—and I do too. Together, we’ll pursue healing that touches every part of who you are.

  6. The Holy Spirit Is Always Welcome
    The Holy Spirit is the true Counselor. He knows more about you than you know about yourself, and His guidance is always welcome in our sessions.

  7. Real Change Matters
    Change isn’t change until there’s actual transformation. If things feel stuck, we’ll work together to identify what’s holding you back so you can grow and move forward.

  8. Identity Is Everything
    Knowing who you are in Christ changes everything. When you begin to see yourself the way God sees you, you’ll start living as the best version of yourself—authentic, confident, and whole.

  9. No Weather Excuses!
    Whether it’s snowing, raining, or blazing hot, we can still meet! If weather keeps us from meeting in person, we’ll simply connect virtually.

  10. Your Privacy Is Sacred
    I’ll never ask you for a five-star review or public testimonial. Your counseling journey is private, personal, and completely confidential.

    At Ascend Christian Counseling, my heart is to help you rise above the weight of what’s been holding you down and step into the wholeness God designed for you—spirit, soul, and body.


    Ready to take that step?

    Email me at michael@ascendchristiancounseling.com or call or text 941-539-7972 to begin your journey upward.

I Hope We Don't...I Hope We Do!

I'm very thankful for the recently agreed upon peace treaty in the middle east. Who among us doesn't want a world of safety and peace?
However, peace not centered on the prince of peace is not lasting peace.
True peace only comes from Christ. In John 14:27, Jesus told us, "Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you; its not like the peace that the world gives."


The definition of the world's peace is, The absence of conflict or war. The peace Jesus gives to us refers to Peace in spite of conflict or war.

There will always be a war between good and evil.  There will be wars when good and evil are indeterminable in knowing which is which! Internal and external conflict has been around since the Garden of Eden and the story of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Good and evil will continue to be at war through Armageddon..

The Apostle Paul spoke about peace in his time that applies to us now. Regarding the age we now live in, 1 Thessalonians 5:3 gives us insight to part of what’s going on in our world now.,
"But as far as times and seasons go, my brothers, you don’t need written instructions. You are well aware that the day of the Lord will come as unexpectedly as a burglary to a householder. When men are saying “Peace and security” catastrophe will sweep down upon them as suddenly and inescapably as birth-pangs to a pregnant woman." 

Let me insert this tidbit of truth here; Nothing is ever as it appears! In any given situation, there's always something else going on that we don't see! I’m sorry to say that this “deal” has more to it than what we know. The lines of demarcation will be blurry.

Ephesians 2:14-16 gives us hope of a new peace treaty with God.
"For Jesus himself is our peace, who has made the two groups, (Jew and Gentile) one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility, (between God and humanity, and between humanity and other humanity)  by setting aside in his flesh the law with its commands and regulations. His purpose was to create in himself one new humanity out of the two, thus making peace,  and in one body to reconcile both of them to God through the cross, by which he put to death their hostility."

So, as much as I love the idea of the current peace talks, I hope we don’t put our hope in a peace treaty made by men. I hope we do place our hope in the God of peace who treaties with us to provide peace with Him, each other, and peace within our hearts in spite of the circumstances in this world we live in..
Jesus is our Peace!

Are You Being Followed?

In this crazy age we live in, it’s wise to keep an open eye to our surroundings. The Bible tells us we are being followed! Don’t be alarmed though, it’s a good thing.

Psalms 26:3 tells us. “Surely… goodness and mercy will pursue me all the days of my life, and I will live in the house (presence) of the Lord forever!”

I don’t know about you but I’ll take all the goodness and mercy that God sends my way! What a great promise to live in!

Prayer: Father, in Jesus’ name I appreciate all your blessings. Thank you for pursuing me with goodness and mercy. Thank you that in Christ I have all things that pertain to life and godliness. Help me to be a blessing to others today so that I can impact your Kingdom in a powerful and positive way!

AMEN!

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Two Stories

We are destined to live our lives by one of two stories.   Each of these two stories lead to how we feel, interpret, decide and act throughout our lives.  Both stories have equal power to determine our future.  Both stories are based upon what and how we think.

 

The first story is the story that God tells us about us.  It’s a story of unconditional love and acceptance through Christ.  This uncommon love, found in the Hebrew word “Hesed’” is the kind of love that refuses not to love, in spite of life’s report cards or performances.  This story includes His willingness to send His son to die for us so that He could be our substitute, pay sin’s penalty for receive Christ’s reward.  It’s a story based upon the truth as God sees it, of our potential, value, significance and our purpose that was deposited into us during the season of our mother’s womb.  It’s partly described in Psalms 139.  It tells how divinely unique and uniquely divine the creator made us.  This tale encourages us to press onward during difficult times because courage and strength are promised to us.  If we face the best of times or the worst of times, God’s plan is that we are destined to be more than conquerors. Each chapter of this story supports our faith and determination.  This opinion God has of us is founded on the fact that He sees us “In Christ” and “Christ in us”.  It’s the best story and version of ourselves that we could ever imagine.  What sounds like a fable and fairy tale is actually the highest truth that exists.

 

Then there’s the second story:  This second story has the power to override the first.  We tend to accept it because it’s based upon facts as we see them, therefore it appears to be more believable to us.  This is the story Michael tells Michael about Michael.  It’s the story you tell yourself about yourself.  It’s the tale of the human heart that plays inside each of us throughout our lives.  It consists of specific, descriptive, diminishing, condemning words we tell ourselves on an ongoing basis.  It’s the words of parents, family members, teachers, coaches, supposed friends, and others that find their way into our story in a convincing manner.  These words have become automatic in the way we internally process our life and our identity.  This story is not just composed of the words we use to describe ourselves, but it’s also made up from the questions we ask about ourselves.  C.S. Lewis said, “It’s critically important to examine the assumptions within a question”.  I’m sure that this statement applies to politics, religion, and many other areas of life, but this also applies to our story – It applies to our identity.  When we compare ourselves to others, when we are overly judgmental to ourselves, about ourselves.  We ask ourselves questions like, why do I always_____, why can’t I be a better_____, why don’t I____?  As we do, we drive the assumptions about ourselves deeper into the beliefs of our hearts.  This story is the story of our identity.  It determines the filters by which we perceive ourselves, our value and significance.  Our personal sense of identity also determines how will relate to others, God and the world around us in general.

 

Proverbs 4:23 encourages us to guard our hearts with all diligence because out of it flow the issues of life. The heart, is the seat of our identity.  God’s word encourages us to guard our hearts, from the wrong story, because the story we believe will direct our lives. 

 

If we accept the failures of our past to be our story, we will approach ourselves, others, God and the world around us out of failure. 

 

As a man (or woman) thinks in their heart, so are they! Proverbs 23:7.  There are a couple truths in this scripture that time prevents me from explaining here, but one truth is that the beliefs of our hearts will direct our behavior.  We all live our lives out of the story we believe in our hearts.  This is why we must bring into harmony the story we tell ourselves about ourselves with the story that God tells us about us.

 

The amount of courage or lack thereof we have is determined by the story we believe to be true about ourselves.  The success or failure we experience is, at least to a large degree, an expression of the story our heart believes.   All our issues flow from our own hearts.  When we change the beliefs of our heart, typically about our accepted identity, we change outcomes, we change behavior, we change our future and the future of our descendants. 

 

There are some who tell themselves a positive story about themselves.  It may not be healthy, but it is positive – temporarily!    We all know those people who appear to have it all together.  They are confident, and enviable.  Their identity seems to have no chinks in it.  However, when the winds of adversity blow, when the ground shakes, when the market collapses, when all hell breaks loose – will they still be standing?  The trying times reveal to us what we are founded upon.  It’s only when we are solidly founded in an identity built upon Christ and His word that we will have a healthy sense of identity.  That’s the solid rock.  That’s the firm foundation.  All other ground is sinking sand.

 

God has an opinion of you that is greater than anything we could think or imagine.  His word declares a story about you that is full of purpose.  It’s fulfilling.  It’s a choice to believe.  His story about you is bursting with Kingdom life and potential.

 

We have the ability to change our story through the power of the Holy Spirit and God’s word. 

Thankfully, we can renew our minds and hearts to the new information that God’s story tells us.  Our biggest hindrance to a life well lived is not your enemy – it’s not the people who mistreated you – its not the opposing political party – it’s not even the devil!  Our biggest hindrance to being the people God created us to be is the lie we believe about ourselves!  Debunk the lies! 

 

I want to encourage you to meditate on the things that God’s word says about you.  You are more than a conqueror! You are loved and accepted in Christ! You are created with purpose for His purpose and glory!  You are enough because of what Jesus did!  It’s time to change the story we tell ourselves about yourselves.   God’s opinion and perspective represent the most powerful truth we can live in!  

There's an app, (I mean a grace) for that!

In 2009, Apple came out with the slogan, “There’s an app for that”. This commercial promoted the various applications available to the user of their new iPhone.

If you want to do your banking with your phone? There’s an app for that! Do you want to shop online? There’s an app for that! If one wanted to order concert tickets, there was an app for that too. A whole new world opened to us, that is now commonplace for a person to do more things from their cell phone than could be done from a computer.

I don’t think that was an original idea though. About 2000 years ago, God provided a grace to us for everything we have need of!

Hebrews 4:16 encourages the reader to “Come boldly before the throne of grace to find mercy and grace to help us in our time of need.”

This scripture promises mercy, which is forgiveness, and grace, which is empowerment, in our time of need!

Our walk of faith is a walk of grace. We are saved by grace, and we continue needing grace throughout our journey. Grace is the power to be and do what we can’t be and do by ourselves. The gospel of John tells us that Jesus provides grace upon grace. We need different graces for different things. There’s a grace at salvation, an enabling to become children of God. That’s the greatest grace of all!

The Apostle Paul said, “I’m an Apostle by the grace of God.” He didn’t claim his education or influence was the base of this calling. It was the grace of God, that enabled him. He was the same author who credited the grace of God for helping him through his hard times as well. The Lord spoke to Paul and said, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.

Paul describes many of his trials including beatings, imprisonments, shipwrecks, threats of death, robbers, false brethren and so on. He claims to have overcome these difficult times by the grace of God.

The Apostle Peter called the grace of God multi-faceted. I think of a diamond when I read this verse. A diamond does not become beautiful until it is cut, or faceted. It takes the facets or cut angles to collect light from different directions and feed the light into the diamond causing them to reflect internally off each other, creating the brilliance. When we accept the grace of God into our lives, in multiple areas of our lives, there’s a similar brilliance, or glory that reflects from our lives.

There’s a grace for all things we need help with. The only prerequisite to receive that grace is humility. Scripture informs us that God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble. Displaying humility is simply recognizing our need for help and asking. What do you need help with? There’s a grace for that! Struggling in a relationship? There’s a grace for that! Need wisdom for your future? there’s a grace for that!

So, if you’re feeling weak in an area of your life, remember that God’s power is made perfect in (our) weakness. But there’s an empowering grace that’s available for the asking.

What’s a one-word definition for grace? Help! God offers help as we boldly and assuredly come before him in prayer. Whatever we need, THERE’S A GRACE FOR THAT!

What is Christian Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?

Cognitive Behavior Therapy is based on the idea that how we think (cognition), how we feel (emotion) and how we act (behavior) all interact together. Specifically, our thoughts determine our feelings and our behavior. Therefore, negative and unrealistic thoughts can cause us distress and result in problems. 

CBT is an approach to counseling with statistics to verify its effectiveness and value. There are questions raised as to whether Christians should consider this approach to counseling. Many Christian counselors believe that CBT is very much in line with God’s word and that utilizing CBT techniques is successful in helping Christians recognize faulty core beliefs and negative patterns of thinking and processing. Christian counseling utilizing CBT even has advantages over a secular approach to CBT counseling.

According to Christian Psychologist, Dr. Mark R. McMinn, “There are at least two reasons why Christians are well suited for this method (of counseling).

First, cognitive therapy requires clients to compare their thoughts with truth to see if they are understanding reality accurately. This is challenging for agnostics, who have difficulty finding standards for truth. Christians believe truth is revealed in scripture, giving them a useful way to evaluate their thoughts.”

“The second reason this method is well suited to Christians is that they believe in God’s love - the only love that is purely unconditional. Many people, due to flawed relationships, find that their deepest fears stem from rejection, abandonment or lack of love. Treating these fears requires disputing their core beliefs. These beliefs can more easily be disputed by people who acknowledge God’s unconditional love. While those closest to us sometimes are the cause of these fears and beliefs, God’s love never results in rejection.”

With CBT, we visit past events in the lives of clients, but only to bring healing to events and traumatic experiences. We are encouraged by scripture to not live in the past or let the past dominate our lives. The Apostle Paul was perhaps the most persecuted of all Apostles. It was from a Roman prison cell that he wrote a letter to the believers at the church of Philippi. He was threatened with execution on a regular basis, and by the grace of God had survived severe torture and miserable circumstances. Somehow he found joy and strength to write these words of encouragement to his friends:

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think on these things. (Phil. 4:8)

Paul endorsed a view about thoughts and feelings that coincides with two basic assumptions of cognitive therapy: Bad events do not require us to feel awful and that healthy thinking allows us to control our feelings. Events contribute to feelings, but they do not cause feelings. CBT believes that healthy, accurate thinking enables people to cope with life’s trials.

CBT coincides with Scripture in “taking every thought captive.”

2 Cor 10:5, The apostle Paul teaches us that we are to take every thought captive and make it submissive to Christ. We are instructed to submit our thoughts to Jesus Christ. In challenging our self-talk, we learn to speak truth against lies. We learn to question what thoughts are truthful, and what thoughts are lies regarding who we are and our identity, how we see the world around us, and how we think about situations. 

Renewing our mind is CBT

In Romans 12:2 we learn that we are transformed by renewing our minds. CBT describes how you can have a new perspective on the way you think, feel and behave by changing how you see events or situations. This can be done at any point in time, even reflecting upon past experiences. It is a quick tool to use by asking “Do I really believe this or not?” Renewing the mind is a major attribute of CBT.

These are positive examples of why CBT is a scriptural way to help Christians deal with many types of issues such as fear, stress, anxiety, self-image, as well as others.

Shame on You?

I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard the words, “Shame On You” during my childhood. In defense of my parents, I don’t believe that they understood the power of those words. I do believe they were attempting to help me understand right from wrong. But those words, along with other deflating words and events, had a lasting effect on my self image, well into my adult years.

Shame affected me in many ways. While I won’t take the time to get into all of them now, I will mention a few. Shame caused me to feel stuck at times; like I couldn’t move forward or past things. It made me feel like I needed to be super spiritual in ways to compensate for my failures and shortcomings. Shame also created these feelings of being attached to the traumatic things that happened to me. It caused me to emotionally hide from people. Shame kept me in a “living life on the surface mode” with no depth, and feeling alone - even in a group of people. Shame does that to us!

Maybe you can relate to some of these things I mentioned. Thankfully, there is grace and power through Christ to overcome shame. I’ve included a short list of five things we should know about shame. Number five is the best!

1. Shame is the toppling of Glory. God's intentions for us are glorious. He crowned mankind with glory and honor. Shame is a longing for restored glory and value. (Rom. 3:23 For all have sinned and fall short of the Glory off God!)

2. Guilt is about our wrong actions, whereas shame is about who we are. (Shame is an attack on our sense of identity)

3. Shame limits our perception of EVERYTHING including God and ourselves! 

4. Shame is the adhesive that binds us to trauma!  We sometimes blame and shame ourselves, not only for what we've done, but for what has happened to us, perpetuating lies about our potential in Christ.


5. Our Freedom from Shame was accomplished through Christ's loving, redemptive work. (Isaiah 54:4 “Fear not, for you will not be ashamed; be not confounded, for you will not be disgraced; for you will forget the shame of your youth… Ps.40:2 He brought me up also out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my goings. Ephesians 1:6-7 We thank God for His loving-favor to us. He gave this loving-favor to us through His much-loved Son. Because of the blood of Christ, we are bought and made free from the punishment of sin. And because of His blood, our sins are forgiven. His loving-favor to us is so rich.

We can break the chains of shame in our lives.

Don’t let shame keep you from seeking help!

RISE ABOVE IT AND ASCEND!